How to get people to say YES!

This is a great and powerful tool, kindess and motivation are the keyes of every intelligent dialogue. Thanks for your suggestions, Rebecca.

Canardo

Indeed, another great lesson from Rebecca.

Nabil

Hi, how’ve you been Rebecca? Just one question about the first part of your presentation.

Is the following question on the board correct? “Could you please lend me $25?” I think it should be “Could I borrow $25 please?” because you are taking some money from someone.
Please correct me if I am wrong.

Interesting to know that psychology plays an important role when it comes to getting people do something for you.

Thanks for this superb video lesson Rebecca.

Regino

You could ask the question in either of the two ways – the one I mentioned in the lesson or the one you wrote about. Both are perfectly acceptable. Yes, psychology is at the heart of all our interactions with others, isn’t it? It’s just that sometimes we understand what’s at play and at other times we don’t know what’s going on! So, I found this research about using the word “because” to be quite interesting. Great to hear from you again, Regino. My best wishes to you.

Rebecca

Thanks, Nabil. Very kind of you. My best wishes to you.

Rebecca

You are so right. Glad you enjoyed the lesson, Canardo. All the best.

Rebecca

Very helpfully Rebecca
Hey Rebecca i don’t wanna bother you buy I was wondering if you can lend me 350dlls cause I need to pay my car… Hahaha

Mauro350

Hahaha….I didn’t say it works every time! All the best, my friend!

Rebecca

This is a wonderful advice. Thanks a lot, Rebecca.

ruslanvk@gmail.com

My pleasure. Glad you found it useful, Hope you checked out the resource too: https://www.engvid.com/english-resource/getting-people-to-say-yes/

All the best to you!

Rebecca

Thanks Rebecca, I appreciate your class.

Espanhol

Thanks so much, Espanhol. And I appreciate your taking the time to leave me a comment. My best wishes to you.

Rebecca

Thanks alot

TWTW

You’re very welcome. All the best to you.

Rebecca

Thanks heaps!

sunhoek

You’re very welcome, Sunhoek. All the best.

Rebecca

Thanks Rebecca for leaving your kind feedback. You were the first Engvid lecturer who left any comment to reply my comment. I don’t mean that they are mean but… you seem more caring for what students say. Thanks a lot again for your effort of making the lesson and your consideration toward me.

sunhoek

Thanks Rebecca… Good tips.

Sandres1

Thank you for your kind feedback, Sandres1. My best wishes to you.

Rebecca

Great Rebeca, Could you please make on Grammar split Infinitive. A little comprehensive, because i am pretty much confuse with it.

Sanaullah

Ronnie had made a lesson which touched upon this subject. It might help you. Check it out:
https://www.engvid.com/gerund-or-infinitive/

Thanks for your feedback and all the best.

Rebecca

Thank you was really helpful.

Sanaullah

Thanks a lot Rebecca!!!

knopfler86

You’re very welcome. Good to see you here again! Take it easy and my best to you, my friend.

Rebecca

thanks, I loved your class!

tereza sadako

So glad to know the lesson helped you, Tereza. My best wishes to you.

Rebecca

Nice!

DiegoGarcia

Thanks! All the best!

Rebecca

thanks so much

Kent Truong

You’re very welcome. All the best!

Rebecca

Thank you Rebecca!

Angela M.

You’re very welcome! All the best!

Rebecca

thank you for these lesson

abuwatfa9

My pleasure! All the best to you.

Rebecca

thank you very much for this useful lesson thank you again

Abd.lawaj

My pleasure. Thanks for your kind feedback and all the best to you.

Rebecca

I love the lession. It’s great. I have never been taught these useful things like that. The more I understand the better I can get. Thank you!

Jack Quy

Thanks so much for your kind feedback, Jack. I am so happy to know you enjoyed and benefited from the lesson. We can always learn – that is what keeps us alive and growing! My best wishes to you. Lovely photo of you and your sweet daughter.

Rebecca

Thank you, Now I understand how to do formal and informal requests…

Elmer Merino

So glad the lesson helped you, Elmer. All the best!

Rebecca

thanks for this imoportant lesson
in the medium-sized request we can give a reason or just in the big-sized request ?

touzani

You will benefit by giving reasons at all times, for all sizes of request. Thanks for your feedback, Touzani and all the best to you.

Rebecca

Could you plz continue to produce the programs like this, because it contains tremendous useful tips! Thanks a lot

Maliban

Thanks for your kind words, Maliban. Please tell your friends about engvid and share our lessons with them so we can continue to make more. My best wishes to you.

Rebecca

Thanks Rebeca for this lesson. That is very important to learn. It will help us achieve successfully what we need from others.

Aleachi

Very useful tips. Thank you Rebecca.

Luiz Alberto

Glad you found the lesson helpful. Thanks for taking the time to leave feedback. My best to you, Luiz.

Rebecca

Rebecca, sorry I made a mistake writing your name.

Aleachi

No apologies necessary, Aleachi. And thank you for your kind feedback. I am glad you enjoyed the lesson. My best to you.

Rebecca

Now, I could make polite, soft, and long requests for anything for easily getting people to say “yes” to my request.
I’d like to thank you for this helpful lesson, Rebecca.:)

Chloe.Lee

Yes, well these techniques will improve your chances of getting a positive response. Thanks for your feedback and all the best!

Rebecca

Hi everybody! Dear Rbecca, thanks for this lesson. I have taken the quiz but in my humble opinion the question #2 could be answered with the second option. :)

Vladimir

Thanks for your feedback, but normally the word “may” is more formal than the word “can”. Also the word “accompany” is quite formal. Hope that helps you to understand better. Please check our resource for more ideas:

https://www.engvid.com/english-resource/getting-people-to-say-yes/

All the best to you.

Rebecca

These exercises are helping me a lot.

Charles Colucci

So glad to hear you are benefiting. My best wishes to you.

Rebecca

Thank you, dear Rebecca!
For below test..
8. Which of these requests is the most formal?
I was wondering if I could take two days off next week.-I chose
I hope you don’t mind my asking, but would it be at all possible for me to take a couple of days off next week? – I did not choose, because of “but would it be at all possible for me” this part. I think it is informal and very direct, it is complicated..

fakhranda

Thanks for your feedback. I understand your point. Generally though, the longer the request, the more we distance ourselves from the situation, and so it is seen as more formal and less direct. Please check my resource for added help with this topic:

https://www.engvid.com/english-resource/getting-people-to-say-yes/

My best wishes to you.

Rebecca

thanks a lot Rebecca

mancef 1611

My pleasure. Thanks for your kind feedback. All the best.

Rebecca

Vera Goodyear, indeed…

Waltav

I am sorry, but the corrector change my comment. What I want to say is that your video was very good….

Waltav

Thanks for your feedback and so glad you enjoyed the lesson. All the best, Waltav.

Rebecca

thanks

Harshpreet Kaur

Welcome! All the best to you.

Rebecca

Thank… :)

nabordelapaz

Welcome! All the best to you.

Rebecca

Thank you Rebecca to learn us both English and psychology in the same time.

beernaard

You are welcome, my friend. So let me also tell you that you should say: Thank you for teaching us…. and not thank you for learning us. It is a common mistake so don’t worry. Just remember that teachers teach and students learn…hopefully! My best to you.

Rebecca

thank you

said atmane

You’re welcome, Said. My best wishes to you.

Rebecca

Thank you Rebecca, Your lesson is useful But it is hard to say because these expression longer I can’t remember however I try to remember.

Ukrit

The best thing to do in such cases is to start with the medium -sized request and learn just ONE expression / question, which you can use with everyone in the beginning. Then, slowly move to learn one expression in each category. Do not try to learn all the expressions at one time. Just choose one and learn that well. Thanks for your feedback and my best to you.

Rebecca

Thank you for your recommended, if I have a chance to speak to other people I try to use short or medium request.

Ukrit

Thanks Rebecca…^^

hugowu

You’re so welcome! All the best.

Rebecca

Great class!Very nice Teacher!

I thought about another psychology tip , is add “I need your help on the requests”!Right?

Thanks!

RafaelCorrea77

Thanks for your feedback and glad you enjoyed the lesson. My best wishes to you.

Rebecca

I’m very happy to found this wonderful site, thanks

Rafolive

Welcome to engvid, Rafolive. We’re so happy to have you join us. Please look around the site; there are so many lessons and teachers you might enjoy. I wish you all the best with your English.

Rebecca

Hello Rebecca. As always, a great lesson. Thanks a lot!

Júlio César L Sousa

Thank you kindly, my friend. My best wishes to you.

Rebecca

Thanks.

Menghan

Welcome, Menghan. All the best.

Rebecca

I appreciate your class

Hani Alhussein

And I appreciate your kind words. Thank you, Hani and all the best to you.

Rebecca

Very useful lesson, Rebecca. Thank you so much ! Also, if someone need to speak english with me let me give my skype : carlyle@hotmail.fr.
Hopefully we ‘ll improve english together ;)

Mrcarlyle

You’re welcome. So glad you enjoyed the lesson. All the best to you.

Rebecca

Could you please lend me your wonderful knowledge of teaching ?

Philon

If you will lend me your wonderful ability to bring joy to others! Thanks, Philon. All the best to you.

Rebecca

its great

taha82

Thanks for your kind words. I wish you all the best, Taha82.

Rebecca

Could you please do more lessons like that, It was wonderful. Thanks a lot.

Anderson

Very useful lesson mam

Debasish Dutta

Thanx, Rebecca for the usefu lesson. To ask someone to do something we can also use a negative sentence + positive tag, the voice goes up at the end of the tag in sentences like: “You couldn’t do me a favor, could you?”. Sounds tricky ) Am I right?

Natalie Rieznikov

What kind of request do i need to use to get one million dollars ? : )

SergeyIrk

Thanks, Rebecca for this useful lesson. I am a beginner in english.

omar.guemmi

thank you so much

1211nguyetque@gmail.com

I was wondering if it would be possible for me to grasp all the lessons of engvid.

Anu Gupta

If somebody asks me, could you make tomorrow lecture today?
Then should I say… I am wondering if it would be possible for me to get the room available.

Anu Gupta

Thank you for your lesson, Rebecca. I am going practic more to my English keeps getting better and better.

Lucia Loan

You are great… Thanks

Saeed1968 saeed

thank you for the lesson.

I have a question.

You wrote:
“I hope you don’t mind MY asking, but could I please borrow $250?”

Would it be incorrect to say/write:
“I hope you don’t mind ME asking, but could I please borrow $250?”

If both are correct, what is the difference in meaning?

audrysilva

Thanks a lot for this lesson, Rebecca.

noneego

This is very useful for me! Thanks a lot~!!

Seo young Kim

Really I was missing this wonderful classes thank you so much..

adwill3

I`m so gratefull for your lesson) Thanks!)

Nikolla

Thanks, Rebecca, for this lesson!

I consider this an important topic in our everyday life — asking for and giving (or lending).

I hope you don’t mind my asking but could you please continue being so helpful to us by teaching English with this care, attention and expertise? I’m really learning a lot with all of you and I intend to support again and again you all and this site, as I hope others do this according to the utility of this site to them and their possibilities.

Fabio Cicerre

Dear Mrs rebecca,, thank you for teaching me englih, Namaste.

artana

You did a great job.Thanks!

alimumin

thanx rebecca…i think it will work out for me….

harjot251099

Thanks Rebecca for your great lesson.

Chau Le

Thank you Ms. Rebecca you have improved my English language a lot….

deepakhi5

Thank you madam,great.My best wishes especially to you and all other tutors of Engvid.Everybody is rocking.And I request a leason,if any one want to migrate to any English country for different purpose to live or work,Immigration people contacting interview for granting visa.So if you give leason on this it will be helpful to many people.My best wishes to Engvid.com

basudeen

Thank you for your good lesson. But I don’t need many words when I borrow money from my brother. I’m like “jsut give me $100 bro. huh ? ” lol

Chris.S

thax very much for your effort

Joud 2016

i get 4 only :(

Majid0

Thank you! Its was great. Perfect language and explanation

Carolinaalice

Thank you ? so much you are very simple and easy

mahmoudhassanparkour

Thank you so much Rebacca

Syed Ameer

Thank you Mrs so much , appreciate, it’s really useful lesson
I got 9 out of 10 still not bad!

Husam Hamhum

Merci pour la leçon, c’était top comme d’habitude !

EnglishMike

Thank you very much for great lesson ,Ms Rebecca!

larysa6165

I got 10 out of 10. Interesting lesson!

Danddan

Thanks a lot for the Lesson Rebecca!
If anybody in the page wants to practice their English on Skype please add me: luizeduardoeng

Eduardo Mendes

Hi Rebecca, I don’t think I need to be more formal at you! Because you are my English mate now! Thanks for the lesson! (y)

sachinaravind

Thank you so much, teacher. :) I enjoyed the lesson and I think it is a very good resource to prepare the language and the psicology for asking something. Also, I liked the difference among talk with familiars, colleges or strangers. I want to put in practice these advices. :/ See you, then.

lorenzoyoques

Thank you very much! It is very helpful!

MeiP

Many thanks for the great lesson Ms. Rebecca. I made ten out of ten.
I always keep my mind the things that you’ve mentioned in the lesson.
Have e good week :)

tayfunt

Can I tell you how pleased I was to hear your lesson because you are a great teacher ?

beernaard

thanks a lot Rebecca.
I really enjoy your lessons.

mazenbasel

Thank you, it was usefull lesson

aliaa

Great, I got 10 out of 10. Thank you, it was a very useful lesson for me because all the time I want favors.

pafsilipoclub

thank you Rebecca it was very good lesson

Dj vicky

Very Good lesson and quiz. Thanks Rebecca.

Osirisrft

thank you

fatehi100

I’m so happy to found this wonderful site, thanks

Dolitta

thank you Rebecca. It was really interesting!

ragiagamal

thanks a lot rebecca

mignon05

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sujith857

10/10
You really help me Mr.s Rebecca!
Thank you very much!

Mondi Nela

Hi Rebecca,
Thank you for this great lesson.
Rebecca, I spoke a simple english language and I want to increase my level of english. Could you please suggest me a book that will help me to improve my english? I find difficulty in writing and understanding complex and compound sentences. I make mistakes when selecting appropriate verb in complex sentences or choosing singular or plural. I will wait for your reply.

ankitkapila89

I feel you buddy!

Caloy

AJ.Hope goOgle it

karik44

Dera Rebecca,
Thank you for this lesson about the subtlety of the expressions.
Yours sincerely.

Peter

Thank you Rebecca because it was very reasonable for improving my broken English.
Good luck and best wishes.

lezghiland

thank u Rebecca i like u so much because relly u help me to improve my english skills

mahmoud 4444

Thank you Rebecca for such wonderful tips!

Caloy

Thanks you Rebeca!!! It really help me…

claudiaoncioiu

Thank you so much, Rebecca! It was a very nice class!

Evertonbh

Great! Thank you.

arthurkomiyama

Thanks I have get 80

Samson12

the lesson is so great, i love your voice it is clearly…and the content is useful!

nguyenlongbien

I think it wouldn’t be a bad idea to translate and share this lesson on my native language. Thank you Rebecca.

Alikmalikk70

thats is good lesson

S@M6

As usual your lessons are very useful.learning how to communicate with people is a very important thing to be successful in your life. Thank you so much Rebecca and I wish you all the best

W.S.A

thank u

Samson12

Thank you Rebcca !

SarraELMALKI

thank you, Rebecca.
Very useful.

gisabo

Working on my English I did 8 from 10. Thank you! Rebecca you are the best and Thank you for them who was created this educational site.

karik44

Thanks to EngVid provide so many good english learning resources to us,appreciate all Engvid’s teachers for making ever efforts to teach us.Thank you so much,you are an angel.God bless all of you

Fianna-law

Thanks for all teachers and Special thanks to you

baselali

Thanks, Rebecca!Step by step and I`ll improve my English skills.:)

Dace Jegere

I like the way you teach. Thank you so much teacher.

Zehmudassar

Thank you so much, It’s a very useful lesson

Terrysam

thank you for the lesson. it could be very useful for me.

kurian

Thanks Rebecca !!! I can feel a power !

Minde

Thanks Rebecca, it’s been another great lesson. You are an excellent teacher.

Ravishol

I get 9/10, thank you for teaching to us! Take care!

huonghue106

thanks a lot . I got 8 !

Soei

It’s really helpful and easy to remember. Thanks so much.

kensir

Thanks a lot rebbeca.

Daqiq

It help me so much in speaking and writing . I don’t know it before. I always curious why someone could write a very easy thing so long. For example: borrow a pencil. I just say: May I borrow your pencil, please? I don’t realize that you could write in another way that show your polite .I wish I could have seen this video earlier because when I was in middle school 20 years before in China , I could have got higher score in test if I could write a long paragraph .

lily888

To Be honest Teacher Rebeca :

You have a Great Personality makes me understand your lessons easily even I am not Native.Thank you again Teacher Rebeca for a million Time ……….

MohDiy

Thanks Rebecca

ljam31

Thanks a lot Rebecca, see you later :D

thinhct95

I’m very grateful for you

Mustafa.mu

Thanks, Rebecca.

Pashel

Thanks

Muhammadomer

thanks so much mrs Rebecca !!! coz it’s great lesson for me so I hope that I got much more till get enough.
God bless you.

RANDRIA germain

Thanks a lot

ALKEBSEE

thanks a lot MRS .. it’s helped me to how choose time for request

ameni58

Well done Rebecca.

engVid770

Yes, i got 10!
Easy lesson!

engVid770

Thank you so much Rebecca.I found it well enough .I was wondering if it would be possible to stay at your home for a couple of days because all the hotels in town are booked.

Author Rakesh

thanks a lot!!! one of my goals for this 2018 is learning a new language and I’m completely sure i will achieve it with the this type of videos. happy new year to all

Cartjay

i love so much……. what great thing giving free lessons to us.

venkatareddy1985

nice and smart learning video .
thank you rebecca , wish you all the best.
by the way iwas wondering iif it would be possible to tell me the difference between wish & hope and usage of each one of them please? the two words have the same meaning in arabic.

Wafaa Mahmoud

My english is improving day by day . I’m really very thankful to you

Arjun Dev

Thanks Rebecca!

Alex-1956

80%

CHIMSA YOSEPH GUTAMA

Great lesson. Thank you

pgunarathna

Rebecca.
Thanks for this lesson.
I really enjoy your lessons.
Thank you

Jesus Segura

Thanks very much for this lesson!

Azumi

Thank you Rebecca for this great lesson and all tips and techniques you have gave to us, making an appropriate request it’s very important to get the positive answer, psychology techniques are very useful and helpful in all relationship and daily life and communication with peoples. by the way, from now, i’ll try to use these kind of request when i communicate with people, maybe friend or others person who i say my request.