How to say NO! Communication skills that work

Thanks for this great Lesson,James.You´re one of the best EngVid Teachers!

Gabriel Vieira EngVid

Saying NO without actually saying NO?

Excellent approach to reject offers/proposals politely without deteriorating your social relationships or finding yourself in conflict with your friends or coworkers.

Well-designed quiz, however there is an unpardonable mistake in the explanation for item 3:

“You shouldn’t TO do it, because it’s not worth being told . . .”

Hope someone can fix it up soon.

Excellent lesson James

Ciao

Regino

I would say that all of them are doing an outstanding job.

Regards

Regino

Ciao. Mi chiamo Lilly. Come Ti Chiami?

Lilly Gleek

I learn a lot from yesterdays course. (Thanks to you Ms. Jane) please allow me to share my own take. Should it be? You shouldn’t DO it, even if you can because you’re tolerating her laziness. But if I find out there is a valid “excuse” (e.g. health matters, priorities & so on) and in a decent approach, then I will do it for the sake of maintaining positive workplace.

M.Hatulan

To tell you the truth,You,Adam and Rebecca are the best ones!

Gabriel Vieira EngVid

I would say that all of them are doing an outstanding job.

Regards

Regino

I really enjoyed the lesson, and gained new vocabulary

nadarocio

midomar

Five out of five, sweet! Thank you, James.

Say “no” can be more difficult than it seems, even in our own language. This lesson will come in handy.

Evaldo Mendes

For us, brazilian people, it’s more difficult, Evaldo!

Carol3139

That was nice from you ! Thank you Engvid ^^
…
to my companions , if anybody wants to practice his English with me ! he’s welcome , Please feel free to be in touch with me :

https://www.facebook.com/anwar.lawer1

anwarLawer

Hello, I really intersting to practice in English.Do you use skype?

katerinapas1

Hello
Thank you so much
Yes i Do . and this is mine “Anwar.aimedieu”
Your are welcome anytime :)

anwarLawer

Excuse me Katerina

The correct account is “Anwar.aimefrance”
Thank you , and Please feel free to be in touch anytime :)

anwarLawer

we can make practice if you like
I am free all the time

AhmadSleiby

Excellent Lesson!….

argenix27

Thank you James. We often get some situations that saying no. But it’s not easy to not give people bad feeling. When we say “no” whether we speak our mother language or English, it’s important to show respect and honor to friends, boss, or family. You showed us a good example what should we do. Great.
By the way the jacket you wearing is really cool. It so suits you!

juneriver

Hello, Juneriver…you are right. James gave us great lession that taught us how to say “No” in a nice way…Thank you Jamies. You are always my fav teacher.
By the way,Juneriver I just wondering do you have a Skpye,can I practice english with you…I am from HK…if you have please add me “lfook_hqgloriagan”

Gloria

I really really want to improve my english skills. please contact if you can help me . We can practice in your free time

truongsan

me too, if do not have any people you can contact me via my facebook ( http://www.facebook.com/khamphet phimmavong

khamphet

it really helps a lot!!thanks to James

TOMLIN

Good lesson. Is there any discussion sort of forum where we can practise the lesson.

sarooj

Excellent Thank you James YES… heuuu NO ;)

Zenman

Hi James, your lesson was quite cool :) Thanks !!

glmrenard

I got 4 correct out of 5. Thank you for your lesson, James :)

Happy04

James your a great teacher.and i clearly understand what you mean i got perfect score thanks you :)

jeromejay

I got 5 correct out of 5. Have nice day:)

Carol 1

Thank you Mr. James, often I cannot understand your lessons and now the situation is same. I answered the quiz by common sense and got 80%. I am glad. Thanks again.

Abdul Qayum

So am I

Anuar is from Kazakhstan

Thanks for sharing

Abdul Qayum

I was very happy while you Mr james were explaining the lesson coz you’re fanny boy

Clarc Gorbatchev

what you wanna say about snack puctur ?

Clarc Gorbatchev

I got 2 correct out of 5.

Ukrit

Thanks alot James for your great job.
It was a good lesson as always :D
and I got 100 in the quiz .
You have a nice way to teach but sometimes you speak fast so I don’t got what r u saying :) … hope you all the best teacher
My regards

aboood1994

I don’t get* .. sorry about that

aboood1994

Nice lesson James! And i just wanna ask you-did you ever thought regarding actor career ? I think you could be best in it ! All the best!

emil87

I told him that before.I bet he’ll doing well at acting.you agree,don’t you??

Rahaf

Hi James, thanks for letting me and others to get into English in a fun way. Sometimes you speak fast but I like it because it is important to make an effort and try to understand English in a normal pace- Thank you again and good luck…

josecatelli

More than an english teacher, a human relation teacher ! You’ve done a good job and you often make me laugh. Thank you so much

Marquito

I love James when he teaches us the art of diplomacy:)

byte

Thank you James for your lession. I got 5/5, and it means your teaching way is the best one. You know how to make the others concentrate on all of what you want to say. Have a good day!

Joni79

Hey James! You’re not only an English teacher but also a psychology teacher! :)

Tinve

james i love that shoving in the quiz.keep up great job

mo1234

I’d a little difficult with the understanding of some words, because James talks in his classes like he talks with your friends. I mean he speaks fast and like in a conversation… Other teachers speak slower, what it’s good, but it doesn’t seems a real conversation.

Carol3139

Тhank you. A very good and not easy lesson.

Yelenalena

You are bsolutely right Yelena!!!

Not that easy, even for advanced students of English. But we must meet the challenge of it.

Good luck with your English.

Have a great day.

Regino

Yelenalena we can practice together if you like

AhmadSleiby

Thanks, 5/5.

adalberto75

Excellent…i got 5 out of 5

DRAUG

hallo everyone..^_^

malik99

These are lessons for life and should never be forgotten, thank you very much!

Tiago de Souza da Silva

Thank you so much For your explanation James .

For my companions ! i wish is there who wants to practice his English , If you’d like to do so ! please be in touch with me ! this is my account name in face book “Anwar Aime Dieu “

anwarLawer

Thanks, James! Great lesson and actual topic!

KittyKatty

its all sounds great dude)) (may i call ya as DUDE?)

RasOOlchick

You are so calm today!! but still the best ♥
I get 100% at the quiz, but to be honest I repeated it twice to make sure I get your idea, not because it’s difficult or hard to understand ,no, I heard about this subject many times before.However I was kind of absent-minded ,thinking about lots of things else :( :(

Rahaf

yeah thnx four in five

gokseltuzun

HI, Everybody, i got 5 out 5. i’m really happpy. this is great. I enjoyed it. it make me more bold and it encourages me. thanks for giving 5 out of five.

Nirmaludhaya

I really enjoy this new way to learn english, I did´nt. Know any about this lesson. Uuppss, always replied with a simple NO thanks ¡¡

nicorojas98

yeeeeeeeeeeeeeeees I got 5 of 5 Iam perfect

Asmaa. H.

5/5. In Portuguese as you said ” nada” means nothing, if you say NO, the correct word is “NÃO”. Cheers

Jorge Pedroso

My first great lesson, thanks

Millito

How can you talk so fast … I admire you!!!!!!!!!! Thanks for the lesson :)

katerinapas1

Hi, Katerina. Would you like to practice with me? I’ll send you a message on Skype. :)

almeida.ec

Yes I would like.

katerinapas1

Hi, Katerina. Would you like to practice with me? I’ll send you a message on Skype. :)

AliAbdullah07

Hi…..you can talk fast if you read too much and watch English movies to know about idioms and accent…(i can speak a little fast because of this..you can taste it)

VahidReza

i would like to do practice
here ia my skype id
malyk.aheer

atique

Thanks alot…….really great and useful ….. i will say it to my students

VahidReza

Hi VahidReza,

I want to practice to someone english. Do you want to practice with me? Let me know if you are interested!
Best regards

caro

Hi..Thank you my friend..you know i dont have much time ..but i can practice with you in my free times…give me your skype ID
i reall like to practice English with people..im an English Teacher….

VahidReza

My Skype Id is chanekapinzon69. Keep in touche

caro

i would like to do practice
here is my skype id
malyk.aheer

atique

I’ve added you atique

VahidReza

Hi caro,

Do you want practice with me?

danielpn

Hi caro,

Do you want practice with me?

danielpn

Excellent ;-)

Belita

Hi, Mr jeams I learnt a lot of vocab in this lesson, thank you so much, see hello to Me E

Bboy samoud

Hi all, thanks for the lesson. I want to improve my English . If there is anybody who thinks we can help each other here is my Skype ID avetik.nersisyan1

Avetik

and FB http://www.facebook.com/avetik.nersisyan

Avetik

Very useful for life! Thank you :D

jeffersoncn

Thank you so much James! A very useful lesson!

natashunia

Hi natashunia…would you like to practice English with me some times??
if you want add me facebook by:
http://www.facebook.com/vahidreza.arian

VahidReza

Thank you a lot,that’s not just about language ,but a culture!

15moon

thanks so much James. i think this is the best chance for me. thanks again.

lpphan

THANK FOR THE LESSONS.

lisanyiberroa

Why did you say “shall we”, I once learned on this site itself that “shall” is never used in normal conversation but only for warning(on public sites) and in Laws. Plz do reply.
Regards

irinadiplo

Thank so much James

Sarahalotaibi

thanks!!sometimes I couldn’t say ..no because I didn’t know the best way!!thanks

Charino

Than you teacher, your way at teaching is very interesting.

Mustafabajan

I was not able to watch the video due to the internet problem but I just participated to the quiz to test myself, fortunately I got 4 out 5 correct which granted me 80 marks. that is good… heheheh. Thanks for offering such a wonderful & public educational site… May Allah Blessed all.

Sifatullah

i got 5 thx james 100%

weza4net

Thank you James!! Very useful videos to improve communication skill.
But i wonder if I get all videos in sequentially.
I tried hard to find the sequence of all videos but i don’t.
Please help me for this.

tushar.patil2007

Hmm, excuse me, i’m not good at listening. Can you tell me the way to improve it? Thanks a lot :)

Thuhue1004

thanks alot :)

saroud

Hi i have a communication problem can i improve my language skills help me

GreeshmanVaishak

Thanks Sir.

rizwanbutt904

Hi James,
i am really very interested by your courses , i have a question here and i am sure that you will help me to succeed: i’m gonna writing my dissertation this year and i am very optimistic because i know that i am able to get a good mark on it, i want you to help me to find a good and strong TOPIC to be written ( this topic should be related with economic world ,business world and why not by some political overviews) please write me back on my Email : takwa.neffeti@gmail.com

takwa wanderlust

Thanks teacher james it is a very good lesson.

angiie.21

thank you James ^_^
if anybody would love to practive english with me add skype : eng.tiger3

mtiger600

thank u teacher james

Abdisalam Daad

Nej! That’s how Norwegians and Danish people say no.
Ayoko! That’s how Philippine citizens say no.
Njet! Njet! Njet! That’s how my Russian friend says no.

It is very hard for me to say no in a needy and demanding individual in front of me. I learned my lesson and still learning.

Your video is really helpful. I need more strength to say no right away without losing the face for both parties.

Cheers! You are an excellent teacher. I really appreciate your knowledge and sharing it to us all. Thanks,Joy

joyflor1980

Tks Jammes … good lesson !!!

Marcio Fagundes

i really like the accent you speak. clear and easy eng.

highlyfocus

I expecting from this lesson to be improve my english communication skill. Guy help me. :-)

Apis

Thx for video:) Will try to watch all your vids:) Cheers:)

kasiakrzysia

Thanks a lot teacher James , you are my favorite teacher here.

Hanhhoang

thanks

tanhakopoli

that was a very helpful lesson
really thank you Mr. james

Aboood

Thanks Mr.James for this video, it’s very helpful for me. Especially in my job :)

ayumasrp

5/5 ..! Next !

Max

James, you are a good and funny teacher. I enjoy every lesson.

Carlos Presa

thanks it’s very useful even in my home language

ozza adel

Great lesson! It’s really helpfull for work relationships :)

rediso4ka

thanks it was an amazing lesson

zoz

I think I had some bias that native English speakers generally feel easier to say “no” than us Asians. I do not know… But this lesson taught me how to decline without losing faces and I want to use this phrase if I have a chance.

iroha

Thank you, the lesson was very interesting for me.

Gregory1949

i got 60 marks it’s bad ):

James pond

thanks

abatoul

jemms you are my hero

kassminho

Thank you james i really like the lesson

mariamstar

Thank you James

emrahbulduk

Thank you for your lesson, James

Fernando25

even though this lesson is for beginners, I didn’t get more then half :( you’re too fast speaking for me.

fugitiveom

james i´m goint leasson englesh

enrriqueggarcia1

thank you verry much ,but ifound many diffecult words in the quize

msmohammed

Truely useful for conversation.

ScottChen

good way to say no, thank you

Edson Valenzuela

This is awesome, thank you James. Btw can somebody talk to me so i could practise my English ;(

thuwanh

Hi thuwanh. Nice to meet u. Let’s get practise our E. what’s your skype or fb?

tranghoang1402

Thanks for you effort.
Pls. I wish you to talk about calligraphy,just basic rules.

Abuomar Sabbagh

i dont know why the same video came with subtitle in my iphone but in my computer without

Kirollos 1987

Hi, I got one question. What “shove it” means? You used that in quiz and the transalation I found for this expression dosn’t match at all.

ulkam

5/5
that was awsome lesson sir o like it :)

hsna

Hi. I’d like to improve my english conversation skills. If anyone can help me pls contact me or add me on skype. My skype ID: luminianis or you can find me as Zsolt Daragus

Luminianis

5/5 my first time :)

Ekko-51

thank you very much

dreamtravel

thanks alot , james
you’re the best teacher ever ..
Keep going on :)

Abdo Hazem

to “come out of the closet” — to tell people that you are gay hahahahahahaha

Jack of Blades

Great !!!

Concepcion

Hi , im new member here, i want to practice english .My FB is https://www.facebook.com/omar.hamza.9421

omar hamza

Thank you james very interesting

samah123

Good choice. thank you❤

Mannoshe

Hi sir james this is my first time here and i love how you teach us..

lhynn

Not correctly placed this exercise is not a “beginer”, because it is very difficult.

Vladkabatkovich

cool video :)

Backly

Thanks for that nice lesson! It was really useful! I love your lessons, James, the way you explain with your great sence of humor! ;-)

Liubov-means-love

You’re a wonderful teacher, I like your lessons because they’re always very funny and useful.
Thank you!

Asphodelio

Hi, Asphodelio!
I am from Brazil and I am learning english too.
If you want someone to improve, Here I am ! :)

demolidor296

This lesson was good for me, thanks James !
cheers !
5/5

demolidor296

Thank you James! It was very useful.
If somebody want speak, here is my fb:
https://www.facebook.com/olim.khaidarov

Olim

Is there anyone want to learn English together?

jarvan the 5

Thank you for your approach Dr.James. I really needed this.

Samrat Rudra

Sir
if you don’t mind i would ask you a question ( not kestion ) that why were you so upset . you looked disappointed and tired sort of . And that was the great lesson about Saying NO

Syed Imad Shah

Thanks

Syed Imad Shah

Thanks, i really enjoyed this lecon. I learned a lot of word and good attitude.

BAMOUNI DOMINIQUE

This is the second video that I’ve watched and it really helps me. Glad that I signed up and continue to learn more of this.

Mj08

Thanks teacher!!! I’m very happy!!! This lesson is coll!

eduardosantos72

Thank you James, I like your lession about how to say no. I got 5/5, I will continue. Very helpful. Thanks EngVid

vickysun

wow i like getting 100 into the quiz , thanks again

Aminata nana camara

Yeah, I’m waiting for new videos. Great job, sir!

KStef

James, you are really the best one, I ever met!!!!

Alena perova

thanks james for this lesson, I am a big fan of you. I like you humor sense and the way of teach as.

maritza901

The lesson which improves English skills and psychological one’s at the same time. It was really useful, thanks!

Perfect_helen

Thanks you are the best ,have a good one

Jorgo

James thank you so much, this is more than learn English, thanks

Marta Lopez

thank you very much mr.james.
i am always thanking engvid espesially you.
today i learned to use the various expression instead of “no”.
thank you.

noah

Thank you for your interesting, enjoyable and easy understanding class !

Alina Erkis

oh Yeah! I got all 5 correct answers!
Actually, this lesson is the most difficult i’ve learnt here. (in Beginner level)
Some of situation and sentences I may still have confused.
I think I need to repeat this video for several times after.

allenbaby

i think that it is all matter of character the way to tell someone ‘no’

evelinmpou

James dude
thumb up man
you the best

fahmymohammed

I think this isn’t a lessons for beginners, but thank a lot for this lesson :)

CopKubar

Thanks!

alparks87

you are the best teacher!!

AngelaYang

Thank you, Mr James this lesson is a really helpful to me

Alale

Thank You for useful lesson!

cadosh

100% – yabba dabba doo

DerClown

Love it, I’m got perfect score.

Miss church

thanks！

shihai182

Nice lesson.I agree with sir James. Our excuse and no should be diplomatically

Shkruallah175@gmail.com

thanks Mr James awesome lesson I got 100% in the quiz , but to say no even in my mother language difficult, your method fantastic to escape in difficult time.

alharth

James, this quiz was very interesting. Maybe these ways of rejecting situation are too much soft or polite.

Anyway many thanks for the hints.

Edmilson Medeiros

feeling happy , you have safe my relationship with my family member , my friends , and specially with my team . last one was just kidding , i am sorry to all my team. and after all again i want to say thanks to great teacher and his team who contribute to make easy others life .